THE GRIEF LETTER
Now “the grief letter” has become a full-length book ...
TGL BLOG, EVENTS, AND MORE
The Dreaded Question
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“’How are you doing?’ is the dreaded question,” says a man whose wife died six months ago.
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“What should be the simplest things get so complicated,” observes a Mother whose son died before his time.
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“I’m doing pretty good,” a college student told me, referring to his Father’s death, “until someone asks, ‘how are you doing?’ and then I come completely apart,” he said. “From one moment to the next,” he added, “you wouldn’t know I’m any better than I was a month after he died. And it has been over a year!” he noted in frustration.
There is Sacredness in Tears
“The longer I live the more certain I am Washington Irving got it right when he wrote:
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‘There is sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and unspeakable love’.”
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Source – Washington Irving
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TGL Author, Fran Buhler
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“God does not remember our sin” (Jeremiah 31: 34) but He “keeps track of all our sorrows” (Psalm 56: 8).
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“The prophet Jeremiah captures our grief pain with words we might never expect to find in the Bible, words even a ten year old can understand: ‘My joy is gone, grief is upon me, my heart is sick.” (Jeremiah 8:18)
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“Grief is like putting an octopus to bed while someone sings ‘Amazing Grace’.”
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THE GRIEF LETTER (TGL)
"The Grief Letter" began as a personal letter from an associate pastor of a Tallahassee, Florida, flagship church, offering comfort and encouragement to individuals and families mourning the death of a loved one. Grieving recipients began calling it “the grief letter.” Now “the grief letter” has become a full-length book, titled: “The Grief Letter”.
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Author, Fran Buhler, possesses a unique background and experience which includes a 21- year ministry career, plus a prior 27-year marketing and business development career with Boston and Florida firms, including managing a Washington, D. C. office. He has published articles in multiple journals and national magazines. From Fran’s two decades of grief ministry, conducting 776 funerals and memorial services, came first the letter and now the full-length book. TGL draws on Fran's graduate education from two institutions of theological and biblical study in addition to his personal journey and many years in ministry.
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WHAT IS THE GRIEF LETTER?
HOW WILL THE GRIEF LETTER HELP ME?
“I found so much comfort in the manuscript, it was a healing experience for me.”
~ Ms. Kathryn L. Funchess - Attorney, Tallahassee, FL
“I found the scripture references, the chapter take-away, and the action steps to be very constructive. … [TGL is] relevant, comforting, challenging, creative, inclusive and … inspiring.” ~ Rev. Joel S. Hawthorne - Pastor, Silver Spring, MD
“Every pastor needs a copy …” ~ William D. Shiell, Ph D. - President, Northern Seminary, Chicago, IL
